In my favorite poem by Robert Frost, Nothing Gold Can Stay, he reminds us that like the seasons of nature, life is one season melting into another, and quickly fading away. This is my attempt to document each season in my life and my family.

The Freedom Tour – Day 5

Filed under: General — Rachel at 5:53 pm on Thursday, May 26, 2011

Day five of our trip dawned bright and early at the Hampton Inn in Springfield, MO. It’s hard to sleep in when eight people are sleeping in various groups and piles all over such a small area. We assembled ourselves into a somewhat presentable state and went downstairs to breakfast.

It was very interesting listening to everything around us while we ate our (very yummy) breakfast. The lady who worked at the hotel in the breakfast area was asking everyone where they were from. A lot of our fellow hotel guests were from Joplin, and were staying at the hotel because their homes had been destroyed. The lady would hug them and praise God that they were alive. It was pretty touching. While all of this was going on, the television above us was playing nonstop weather…either Joplin coverage or warning of the impending danger of tornadoes between Springfield and Oklahoma City. Since we were planning on traveling right through that path, we were trying to hurry and get out of town to try to beat the storm. So, with bellies full, we hit the road again.

We soon passed by Joplin. The Interstate exit ramp into Joplin was, of course, closed, but we still saw a lot of damage just passing by. It was mostly twisted and mangled signs, large housing debris, and then smaller debris. We could see one neighborhood, though, where all of the trees had fallen on top of the houses, collapsing the roofs. It was pretty sad. It was heartbreaking to think that we couldn’t even see the most heavily hit area, and very sobering to think of all the many, many lives lost in the Joplin tornado.

After the drama of driving past Joplin, the drive was pretty tame. The kids were good but (VERY) loud. The following video was the product of several hours in the van and a couple of bathroom stops:

As you can see, we entertained ourselves any way we could:

The dramatic part of our trip occurred after we stopped in Oklahoma City for a bathroom break and some “lunch” at about three o’clock (4:00 Eastern). We had drove straight through until that point, only stopping for short bathroom breaks. We stopped at a Chik-fil-a, and, about halfway through our meal, the manager came and discreetly told us that there was a tornado warning one county over and the storm was moving in our direction. She that if and when Oklahoma County was put under a warning, they would lock the doors to the dining room, and we could either leave or seek shelter with them. Our dilemma was in deciding what we should do. No part of chilling out (no pun intended) in the Chik-fil-a cooler at forty degrees appealed to us, but we didn’t know if it was a good idea to drive through the storm. We really didn’t want to lose so much driving time, though, because we were hoping to get to Dumas at a decent hour. The storm wasn’t supposed to arrive in Oklahoma City for another hour. We came to the decision that we were just going to try to drive through the storm, because we figured it would probably just be a bad thunderstorm anyway.

We made it as far as the van, where I turned and asked Amy, “What do you think we should do?”

She said, “We should probably pray and ask God to help us make the right decision.” She then prayed and instructed the kids to pray, as well.

No sooner had that occurred than Amy’s iPhone sounded a weather warning, letting us know that we were under a tornado warning. As soon as we heard it, we both felt like we should not try to drive. We went back inside the Chik-fil-a, where the manager then told us that we were welcome to take shelter with them, but, as it was going to be very cold for the children, we should consider going to the Bed Bath and Beyond store across the street. So, taking his advice, we went across the street to the Bed Bath and Beyond.

Once there, we stood around feeling awkward for about half an hour until the manager of the store announced over the intercom that a tornado had been spotted in the area and all customers and employees should take shelter in the front of the store. I don’t know what we were expecting, but somehow we were surprised when we were all herded into the women’s restroom. Our little boys especially loved that. </sarcasm>

This is what the children and I looked like:

And this is what everyone else looked like:

What did we ever do in a world before smart phones?

We spent almost two hours in that bathroom when it was all said and done. It was mostly boring and uneventful, but there was a few minutes when the storm picked up and large roofing tiles were blown into the roof of the store. That part was very frightening. When the storm finally passed, we got in the van and proceeded to get the heck out of Dodge Oklahoma City, amid the blaring of tornado sirens (for the eastern part of the city).

As we set off westward, we discussed how we believed we had made the right decision. We were disappointed about how much later we were going to get where we were going, but we felt like we had made the safe choice. As we got about thirty minutes down the road, we begin seeing debris along the roadsides here and there…a toppled barn…a broken sign. It was when we got to El Reno, Oklahoma that we saw the true reality of the Lord’s protection over us and our children. An EF4 tornado hit El Reno right about the time we would have been traveling through there. Our mouth’s hung open and our pulses quickened as we very vividly saw what might of been. We passed the wreckage of truck after truck on both sides of the highway, the large swath of devastated homes and cars and landscape, and we even saw rescue workers loading a body bag into the back of a truck. Those who tried to drive through the storm didn’t make it. We later learned that at least three lives had been claimed by the tornado, and more people were injured. While we only saw the remains of semi trucks along the road, it was reported that cars that had tried to drive through were ripped to pieces and flung in all directions. The personal vehicles had already been cleared from the interstate by the time we passed through.

I will add some video that Amy took as soon as she gets it uploaded. It was pretty intense.

After that sobering few minutes, we spent the rest of the trip was pretty low key. We arrived in Dumas, Texas a little after eleven p.m. central time, and went to bed almost as soon as we got here. Having met Amy’s family when we made this same trip last year, I was happy to see Amy’s parents and sister Julie that night. Especially Amy’s mom. I just love her!

Anyway, we hit the hay, and fell right to sleep. It had definitely been a very long, tiring day.

The Freedom Tour – Day 4

Filed under: General — Rachel at 1:02 am on Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Today has been a long day. We didn’t leave Fort Knox until early afternoon. We grabbed lunch in Elizabethtown, and then set off toward Sikeston, Missouri.

We decided to go through Paducah and Sikeston instead of through St. Louis to get to Springfield. Why? Lambert’s Cafe, of course! Home of the famous Throwed Rolls!

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Amy said Owen was making the “Facebook kiss” face that all the silly little girls like to post on Facebook.

Amy Jo and me. We were very happy to be at Lambert’s…and out of the van for a while.

If you are not familiar with Lambert’s Cafe, well, I feel sorry for you. It’s a wonderful place. They have all kinds of country style food. You pick your entrée, your sides, and then you also get “Pass Alongs”. Those are sides…like fried okra, macaroni and tomatoes, black eyed peas, and fried potatoes…that servers walk around ladling onto your plate in addition to the food you order. Then of course, the most famous of all, the Throwed Rolls. Why are they called “Throwed” rolls? I’m glad you asked. They are called that because the server stands at the end of the room and throws the rolls to you. It’s loads of fun. The kids got about three rolls each, just so they could have the fun of catching them. Amy took some videos, but they aren’t uploaded yet. I’ll share them here when they are. The kids…especially my kids who had never been to Lambert’s before…had a blast. It was kind of nostalgic for me, too, because Chris and I ate in that exact restaurant on our honeymoon ten years ago.

After dinner at Lambert’s, we got back on the road headed for Springfield, Missouri where we had a hotel room waiting on us. (Thanks, Joel!) Driving through Missouri is kind of boring. At least on that route. There wasn’t much to look at, and the roads were so straight that you barely had to use any brain power to drive.

Driving

Not Driving

This is the boring road ahead of us.

Amy was thinking, “That Rachel. She’s flat out amazing. The way that she can drive for hours with the kids making those shrieking sounds…amazing. The way she knows all the words to all the youth choir songs on that ever so lovely cd made with such stellar audio ten years ago at the Tabernacle…amazing. The way she manages to do it all while looking so cute and being so funny and charming, too? Amazing!”

The following photos are for comparison:

This is me at the beginning of the drive.

This is me about seven hours into the trip. I call it, “Going a little nuts.”

Abby was kind of over it at that point, too. Can you imagine being strapped in one position in a car seat for an eight or nine hour drive? She gets the “best baby” award. Not only did she ride almost the entire way with no crying, but she also waited for our stops to use the potty. She only had one wet diaper all day! Winner, winner, chicken dinner!

A pretty sunset ahead of us.

With that, we end the photo-journaling portion of our blog post. After the last picture was taken, the heavens broke forth and the wrath of God in droplet form rained down upon me and made driving miserable for the last hour or so. By the time we pulled into our hotel parking lot, my entire upper body was stiff and sore, I had a headache, and my eyes were burning and aching from the strain of trying to see.  Tomorrow, I think I’ll get up and do it all again. Hopefully, minus the rain.

Goodnight, and God Bless!

The Freedom Tour – Days 2 & 3

Filed under: Freedom Tour, Road Trips, Trips — Rachel at 10:23 pm on Sunday, May 22, 2011

Days two and three of The Freedom Tour may not make for very exciting blogging, but I have thoroughly enjoyed them.

I’ve been at Amy’s house for two days, and I’ve done a whole lot of nothing. Really. I’m trying to think of what we’ve done so that I can dutifully report, but I’m drawing a big blank. I know that we’ve ate at least three times a day, I read most of “The Bell Jar” since I got here and finished it today, and we’ve listened to a lot of music. We watched a little tv, and did some laundry. The kids have played outside, rode bicycles around the neighborhood, and spent way too much time playing “Rise of Nations” on the computer. Abby Jo has watched about a hundred episodes of “Dora the Explorer”. Earlier today, she said, “Hola, Mamie!” to Amy. So, maybe by tomorrow she’ll be bilingual.

Since we’ve not done anything worth blogging about, I don’t have any pictures, either. Except for this one:

We are leaving in the morning for Springfield, Missouri. We were going to take a different route through Memphis and Little Rock (leaving from TN instead of KY), but the flooding they were having made us decide to go the same route as last year. After crazy tornadoes in Joplin, Missouri today, though, we altered our route again to avoid the devastation by going slightly south of Joplin. (Our prayers are with all of the people of Joplin.)

Book 23

Filed under: 100 Books, General — Rachel at 9:33 pm on Sunday, May 22, 2011

I have finished the twenty-third book in my Epic 100 Book Attempt of 2011.

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath was intriguing to me. This book is loosely autobiographical. In it, Plath describes the harrowing descent into mental illness that transformed Esther Greenwood, the protagonist, from a successful honors student at an all-girls university to a numb and detached patient in a mental asylum.

In the poetry class that I took this past semester, we read several of Plath’s poems. I also read some by her husband, Ted Hughes. Plath’s writings take on an edge of intrigue when you know that she eventually took her own life. The pain and mental torment described in The Bell Jar were real. They were hers.

Sylvia Plath was an amazing poet, and her writing skills shine just as bright in her delicious prose. I thoroughly enjoyed reading The Bell Jar. I give it two thumbs up.

I didn’t want to create a whole post for nothing, so I am just going to add this bit of info here. I have read Books 24 and 25, but am not reviewing them. They were both topical, non-fiction.

The Freedom Tour – Road Trip 2011

Filed under: Road Trips — Rachel at 10:40 pm on Friday, May 20, 2011

And so it begins…

My first endeavor as a newly graduated free woman is to travel half way across the country in a van with six children ten and under and my best friend, Amy Jo. Just like last year (you may remember me blogging about mentioning the Insanity Tour of 2010), we are traveling to Dumas, Texas to visit Amy’s family. I’d say I’m tagging along, but I think I’ll be doing most of the driving. I’m slowly but surely weaseling my way into Amy’s family. What? They need a fourth sister. Besides, her Mama loves me. She told me so.

Anyway, today was my first leg of the journey. The kids and I traveled from our house to Amy’s house in Fort Knox, KY. It wasn’t really anything exciting, but I have the following picture to commemorate it.

Me and my dimple, squinting into the sun at the TN/KY border.

You now have two options. You can either pretend that this is a fabulous picture in which I look really great and my hair and makeup are actually done, OR you can think, “Wow. You know what? Rachel really deserves a vacation!”

Nothing very interesting happened on the first leg of the trip. I did run over a snake, though. I gunned the gas so that I would be sure to hit it, and I may or may not have muttered, “Under my heel, you slimy devil!” while I did it.

Elijah got carsick, but he didn’t throw up. For that, I was very grateful. We stopped in Tompkinsville at a McDonalds for a bathroom break and four Happy Meals. While we waited, an old guy asked me if the kids were all mine. Used to this question, I just smiled and said, “Yes, sir!” He grinned and winked and said, “You’ve been busy!” It’s always nice to have old guys give your sex life a nod. It makes me feel accomplished and noticed.

I rolled into Fort Knox at about seven in the evening, and I’m looking forward to a couple days rest before heading to Texas. My body is unwilling to drive long distances at this point in time. After days of ripping up floors, painting ceilings and walls, and being on my feet all day…not to mention one of my feet being nail-pierced…I just want to relax. (For those of you who don’t know, we are remodeling our living room and kitchen right now.) So, for now, we’re chillin’ in the blue grass, and we’re planning on leaving here in a couple of days. We will drive to Springfield, Missouri, spend the night there, and then travel on to Texas the next day.

With that, Day 1 of The Freedom Tour is in the books. Goodnight and God bless!

Book 22

Filed under: 100 Books, General — Rachel at 8:45 am on Friday, May 13, 2011

I have finished the twenty-second book in my Epic 100 Book Attempt of 2011.

Naomi and her Daughters by Walter Wangerin Jr. is a book that I got for free on Kindle. (It’s not free anymore, but it was for a time.) I don’t want to be too harsh in my review of this book, because I’m sure a lot of time and heart went into writing it, but I”m going to be honest.

This book is a novel based on the lives of the Biblical Naomi and the people in her life, including Elimilech, Mahlon, Chilion, Orpah Ruth, Boaz, and Milcah. I realize that this book is a work of fiction, but I had a hard time getting around the fact that this novel is based on the lives of real people. You wouldn’t pick a family from more recent history, let’s say the Kennedy family, and write completely fictionalized accounts of their personalities, their interpersonal relationships, and their thoughts and actions and expect it to be well received. I felt the same kind of emotional kickback in response to having these people from ancient history fictionalized. I didn’t particularly like the personalities the author gave them, and it was hard when this story didn’t jive with what the Bible actually does say about these people.

All that aside, the story is about Naomi, her “adopted daughter”, Milcah, and her daughter-in-law, Ruth, along with the various men in the book, with Boaz playing the only prominent male role.

While the story was somewhat interesting once you get past the dissonance between what you grew up hearing in Sunday School and the fictionalized version in this book, I just couldn’t get past the poor writing. This was a novel set in the ancient Hebrew world, but the word choices and imagery didn’t always fit in that setting. The writing felt forced at times, and even stilted. I could never lose myself in the story, because the writing jolted me out of the moment and into a mental struggle with the author’s word choices. As I read it, I assumed this must be a first novel, but, turns out, the author has written quite a few other books. I don’t want to be mean in my review, so I’ll just leave that there.

I can’t recommend this book, because I honestly did not enjoy it. I wanted to call it quits about half way through, but I kept reading it for the sole purpose of finishing a book for this 100 Book project. I didn’t like the story, and I just could not get past the sub par writing. I’m not proposing that I could do better, but, as an avid reader, this is just not quality writing. You get what you pay for, though, and this book was free.  At least, I am one book closer to my goal.

A New Vision of the American Dream

Filed under: Adoption, General — Rachel at 10:59 am on Thursday, May 12, 2011
Again, this post was written a couple of weeks ago somewhere else, but I decided to post it here as well.
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I woke up this morning tired but happy. I was looking forward to hearing my husband preach at church. He preached about adoption, and I had to fight back tears the whole morning. I’m not sure exactly why I feel so passionate about adoption lately, but I know it’s something that I’m supposed to do.
I have always wanted to adopt. Since I was a little girl, I imagined that I would have some biological children and I would also adopt some. There was a slight obstacle to my plans when I realized that my chosen husband wasn’t as keen on adoption as I was. He felt like he wouldn’t love an adopted child like he would his biological child, and that it wasn’t something he ever saw us doing. Over the years, I would occasionally bring it up, but I always got the same response from him. “Not for me.”
Fast forward to now, and we’ve been married for ten years. We have four children…two boys and two girls. The perfect family. However, I believe that there is another child, possibly more, yet to be added to our family. I don’t know the sex or age or name or even the native country of our child, but I believe they are out there waiting for us.
I had almost lost hope that my husband would ever change his mind about adoption, but, after reading a couple of books that convicted both of us about the topic, he has changed his mind. He no longer sees adoption as something that is not for him, but he sees it as a responsibility as a Christian and as an opportunity to be blessed. Our youngest child is two now, and we both have the desire to have another baby. We can’t have any more biologically, so this has helped to turn his heart toward enlarging our family through adoption.
I was so proud of him this morning while he was preaching. He began by explaining the Biblical doctrine of adoption, and then he moved on to the practical application of mirroring God’s adoption of us by adopting children. What better way to reflect the character of God? I felt like there were some people there that didn’t like his topic. I don’t think they want their comfortable lives challenged. Adoption doesn’t always fit into the standard “American Dream”. It’s hard to afford bass boats, yearly vacations, and trips to Disneyland when you are saving to pay for an international adoption. Loving and training a child who’s been brought up in the foster care system may complicate the ease of life when your biological children are grown. True religion and the American Dream sometimes butt heads. I was proud that Chris preached the truth with conviction about adoption this morning.
I fought tears, and I imagined bringing home another child. This is something I want. More than I want to travel…more than I want an education…more than I want to go places and see stuff and do things, I want to bring my next child home. I want them to know the loving touch of a mother’s hand. I want them to feel the security of a daddy’s embrace. I want them to be loved by my other children. I want to give them a family.
I don’t know so much about what lies ahead, but I find it exciting. I find it exhilarating, actually. It’s one of those things that makes me think, “This is what life is all about.” When it gets down to it, adoption is about love. It is about loving someone else more than yourself and your own interests. It is about reaching outside your comfort zone, and pulling a lost little one into your inner circle. It is about giving a child hope and a future. It is following in His steps.
When I think about what I want to do with my life, that is what it boils down to. I want to love. I want to love bigger and bolder and more beautiful than I ever have before. I want to make sense of the pain and loneliness that I have experienced in my life by letting it be the catalyst that prompts me to turn that knowledge of what it feels like to be hurt and lonely into an empathy and compassion for a child that feels like that. I want to remember exactly what I felt like as a little girl, just wanting to be loved without reserve, and I want to love some little boy or little girl that way.
I want to be a mother to a motherless child.

Thoughts on Graduating, Freedom, and What’s Next

Filed under: General — Rachel at 10:32 am on Wednesday, May 11, 2011
I wrote the following post about a week ago. It wasn’t originally intended to be a blog post, but I thought I would post it here anyway.  Especially since, after writing this, I didn’t feel like writing the same stuff over on my blog, so my “graduation post” consisted of a paragraph and some pictures. Anyway, without further ado…
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Today, I reached a goal that I have been working toward for the last four years. Today, I completed all the work necessary to receive my first college degree. I know most people aren’t very impressed with an Associate’s degree, but I am insanely proud of myself. I am the first person from my family to graduate from college with any kind of degree. My parents graduated from high school, but only two of my four grandparents did. My paternal grandfather only went through the second grade. They were all very intelligent people, especially my mom, but they never had the opportunity to further their education. So, I am especially thankful for the opportunity to go to college, and very grateful for my parents’ help with my children while I went to classes. They didn’t go themselves, but they were a big part in making it logistically possible for me to go.  This is a really big deal to me.
I am almost giddy with freedom. I just couldn’t be happier to be finished with this semester. I took five classes, and it was hard. Really hard at times. I did it, though. I finished, made good grades, and now I am free to enjoy my life and my family. I am planning on taking a year off of school to figure out what my next step is, and also to begin homeschooling my third child. Teaching him to read is a rather large undertaking, and I don’t want to be stressed with homework and classes at the same time.
The freedom stretching out before me seems endless right now. I don’t have to consider any due dates, homework, or class schedules for quite a while. I can do whatever I want. Whatever I want sounds really good to me right now.
When I think about what I want to do now that I’m finished, beginning foster care classes is at the top of my list. Chris and I have decided to become foster parents. I don’t know if we will adopt from the foster care system or not, but I believe that is the direction we are supposed to go for right now. We had delayed beginning the classes because of my school schedule. I just didn’t have time to think about adding the care of another child to my life. Now that I’m finished with Roane State, though, I am free to move in that direction. That makes me very happy.
There are other less life-altering things that I intend to do with my freedom. I have been working toward a goal of reading one hundred books this year. I think I’ve read about twenty so far, but I am really looking forward to having more time to read. I have a shelf full of books waiting on me right now. Everything from classic fiction to contemporary fiction, theology to self-help, and a good deal of historical non-fiction, as well. I am truly excited. Reading is both my first and favorite hobby. I’m thrilled to have more time to devote to it.
Writing is also at the top of my list. I am trying to decide between two possible directions to go in school. I had intended on getting a Psychology degree, with the end goal of becoming a psychologist. At the suggestion of my Lit professor and the encouragement of friends and family, I am now considering switching my major to English with a concentration in Creative Writing. I really love writing. I want to get better at it. As my technical writing skills have improved over the last few years, my time available to write decreased dramatically. I want to spend a lot more time writing in the year ahead of me, and see if I think that writing is what is in my future.
Gardening is also on the forefront of my intended pastimes, right now. I have both flower gardens and a vegetable garden, with some more of both in pots. I want to take the time to grow healthy food for my family, and I want to create a beautiful environment with flowers and green things. This is a new hobby for me, and I’m learning as I go. I’m looking forward to having more time to work on my gardens.
Something that is less fun and not something that I “looking forward to”, per say, but more like something that I know I need to do but haven’t had time for is going to the gym. I want to get in really good shape. I want to be healthy and feel good about the way I look. It was just too much to try to go while I was taking five classes, but I am going to have lots of time to do that now.
The most important thing that I am looking forward to, though, is spending more quality time with my family. This is the most pressing reason I have for taking a year off of school. After a semester of trying to juggle five classes and a family, I am ready to devote my time and energy to my husband and children. I don’t want to spend my children’s entire childhoods holed up in the bedroom doing homework. They have been good, patient, and helpful while I’ve made my way through this semester, and I want to make up for the lack of time I’ve had to spend with them. I look forward to taking them to the gym to swim and play ball, to the library, on day outings, camping trips, a road trip, and spending more time at home talking to them, reading to and with them, teaching them things, etc. I feel like I owe my children a lot of attention. I am looking forward to the freedom to give it to them.

Book 21

Filed under: 100 Books — Rachel at 10:32 pm on Monday, May 9, 2011

I have finished the twenty-first book in my Epic 100 Book Attempt of 2011.

“The Elegance of the Hedgehog” by Muriel Barbary was absolutely excellent! I’m serious. I loved this book so much. It is my new favorite book.

Amy asked me a few days ago what my favorite book was, and I couldn’t give her a definitive answer. Now I can. It is “The Elegance of the Hedgehog”. It’s that good.

Now, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that not everyone will love this book. It is by a French author, I believe, and it is also set in France. So, there is a lot of talk of tea and Euros. The names of everyone are French, and I wasn’t always sure how to pronounce them. The writing is very cerebral, so, if you’re looking for a quick beach read or a nice love story, this book might not be for you. You should at least give it a try, though. I loved it so much!

The writing is what makes this book so wonderful. The prose is almost musical in it’s deliciousness. I just loved it. I read several sections out loud just for the joy of hearing the words.

The plot is fabulous, as well. It was intriguing from the get-go. The story is told through two main characters: Paloma, a twelve year old girl and Renee, a fifty-something concierge. They both live in the same apartment building, and they both have secrets. Paloma’s is that she is planning to kill herself on her thirteenth birthday after she sets her family’s apartment on fire. Renee’s is that she is secretly a very intelligent and cultured woman. They story revolves around the inner lives of these two characters and the happenings inside of their apartment building in France.

This book was written with exquisite prose, perfectly balanced humor delivered with a soft touch, and well-developed characters. I was happy with this book from the first page to the last, and I hope you will give it a chance.

Graduation

Filed under: Photos, School — Rachel at 10:19 pm on Monday, May 9, 2011

I did it! I finally graduated from Roane State. I graduated Magna Cum Laude, and I’m insanely proud of myself. I don’t know if I’ve ever truly been proud of something that I have worked so hard and so long for. I’m so happy that I didn’t give up when things got hard. Here are a few pictures from my big day.

Chris and Me

Amy Jo and Me

Me and My Family (the boys don’t like pictures)

Me and Mom

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